I look out of my bedroom window down here in country Vic, past the olive trees and down the paddock where the young dairy goats are chomping away at the all too prevalent pasture - rain has kept everything green all summer - and in my little poly heart I know that the beautiful life I am constructing is a good choice. Good for me, good for my planet, good for my kids, good for those I connect with. I am in many ways content with my choice to step away - a little - from the mainstream world and live simply, though country life can occasionally get me down. Chooks have to be fed hangover or no hangover, etc etc.
I've spent years being an open, politically active Bisexual-poly-BDSM-Pagan-man-slut. My keyboard has advised Queerdom, my bedroom door has revolved and revolved - and I'm tired. Not of sex, I love sex, do it with great skill, industrial stamina and considerable charm - but tired of the short term "grab-all-you-can" physical intimacy without meaning that has been my past. I live best in community, not in isolation. At 41, admittedly a shockingly sexy 41, I think I am old enough to say yes or no to whatever I please, based on my experiences rather than fearful moral prejudice. What I am saying yes to these days, is intimate contact that moves in and out of the bedroom with fluidity and a joyful spirit.
I search for poly-pioneers. Yes there is a purpose to this post - I have this little acreage on the outskirts of Albury/Wodonga just a few hours from three capitals. I want to make a little eco-permaculture-community, have for years, as most of the polyfolk who know me from other online and offline places will be aware. On this property is a little old house, where I live and my teenage children live one week in two - and a caravan where my lover lives. We are both Bisexual and poly, but we've drifted apart a little due to many tough circumstances the world decided to fling at us over the last year or so. We will drift back together, though perhaps not with the intensity we had before.
I've owned the place for a decade, lived here on and off as I did and undid various work and community projects. My last "caretaker" virtually destroyed the house and trashed the gardens, and I have been rebuilding, slowly, ever since. The garden is a pretty spectacular permaculture setup - the house hasn't fallen down. I am back forever now, I believe.
The Household is poly-kink-alternative-eco-Queer-sex-art-positive. We host parties every now and again where anything can - and does - happen.
So poly-pioneers - come. Hitch up your covered wagons and let's create. Or send me a message and we'll talk, that might work too.
Love and Light, Robin.
Well things have moved on somewhat since I last blogged and there are now three of us as happy as buttons... or peas in a pod... it's all very new and fresh but so so good. I feel nothing but joy as do we all.... yes Cloud Nine has 3 new residents.
It all came left of field and very unplanned as the best things often do but he we are right now..... wishing everyone else luck and love... so nice to be able to post happy things and not hoide.
Oh details... we are FFM ...and the other girl is jsut so lovely I am a bit smitten already! No jealousy jsut feeling like I have two best friends that I have intimate moments with....ahhhhhhhhhhhhh
No matter your poly, no mater your other inclinations and pleasures, we all have the same purpose in mind. We all seek a world where we can express our desire/love/affection/commitment/all of the above for other people as we see fit, not as law or society dictates and without prejudice.
I know I am just a hairy old fool, but as such I should still be able make commitments, investments, jump of bridges and make mistakes as I see fit and live with the consequences without over protection from law or society.
I will never give up my love or abandon my commitments to my partners in any case so law and society be hanged.
I AM POLY AND A FAMILY MAN. PROTECTIVE AND PROUD OF BOTH !!
Hi all, we're relatively new to the poly world, so are pleased there is such a site. We're a 'mature' couple of 50 (M) and 54 (F - me). However I like to think of us both as less defined by our chronological ages, and more by our sense of openness, curiosity, excitement and wonder at the possibilities of existence (in many ways we're both quite 'immature'! - we're a bit alternative, and M in particular presents as a bit 'out there' so we do tend to come across as younger than our ages suggest).
We've been together for only a couple of years, each having struggled in our different ways with previous (monogamous) relationships. We've each separately spent a lifetime contemplating how to achieve loving, intimate, honest, respectful relationships at the same time as remaining open to other possibilities, and at times experimenting with that. However neither of us has previously been with / encountered others with whom this seemed to work or even be a theoretical possibility. We both feel blessed to have stumbled upon each other at this point in our lives and are very interested in seeing where this exploration takes us.
We're both intellectually very curious and spend huge amounts of time exploring ideas together - philosophical, psychological, sociological, relationships etc. We're also both very 'earthy' and creative and love creating and growing things together - our gardens in particular. We relish our time together, but we also each need plenty of time and space to ourselves - hence we live separately in adjoining suburbs and come together when it's right for us both (which tends to be quite often :)). This seems to be a healthy thing for us as it keeps our connection vital and conscious rather than habitual or taken for granted.
So far, since we've been together, we've experienced some other intimate connections with others, both separately and together (I'm bi-sexual, M is predominantly straight) but none of these have turned into ongoing relationships. These experiences though have helped confirm for us that what we're looking for with others is meaningful, emotionally engaged, holistic relationships, that can be incorporated/included in our life together, rather than 'just' sex.
So, that's where we're at right now. We'd love to meet other like minded souls (online or in person) to explore these ideas with and hear about others' experiences.
Warm wishes to all on this exploratory path, and would love to hear back.
Jane and Mike
My journey begins only about 6 years ago when my doughter an wife felt i should reach out an make new friends they started a account on aff.com there i was just an average troll iffa u like but one day i found a chat room called the basement in there i was treated differantly than in outher chat rooms so i started makeing enquiries about this BDSM D/s thingy and its during my recerch that i noticed that manny "lifestylers" had this "polly" tag in there profiles.so off on more recerch i went... an every thing i read about it sounded so good i never realised what a high emtional conmnection it could take one to.
I knew i wanted in and with the wifes best wishes im tryin to be noticed it aint easey as you know im shure but the only Lifestylers i can find at the moment is online as i live so far from any thing like this . but ive managed to make manny new friends i even have a cyber colar to a Polly Domme alas it is only cyber though i yearn to be offered a real one some day who knows where this road will lead me untill then i will enjoy my new found friends an try to learn as much as i can from outhers ....gaza
We are a Poly-curious twosome, he (49) / she (34) who are interested in
exploring other peoples experiences, feelings and thoughts about the Poly
relationships they have had or are having. We are both very interested in Poly
as a means of breaking down what we see as the outdated family and relationship
structures that currently exist and we would like to explore, both intimately
and mentally the possibilities that Poly Relationships might offer, especially
the replacement of fear, guilt and anxiety with unconditional love and the
freedom of joyfully intimate experiences.
Our relationship is quite unique. We both work from home and are somewhat
'creative souls'. Working from home means that we spend a lot of time together,
and we frequently talk about Life, Philosophy, Relationships the Environment and
much much more. But we are also each very individual and independent souls that
need our own space. We achieve this by having separate sleeping and living
areas, where we frequently sleep alone, coming together in a communal space
whenever we feel the need.
We are lovers but first and foremost we are great friends and companions with a
deep respect for each other. We both pursue Truth, Openness, Honesty and
Integrity vigorously, which is why Poly, to us, seems like the perfect way to
relate with other kindred souls.
Our first step will be a visit to the Bendigo Poly Group (hopefully in early
Feb) to meet and discuss, and then on to the Melbourne discussion group. Then
we'll sit down together and talk some more about taking the next big step!
We would love to hear from anyone who has any suggestions for newbies or their
thoughts on how they felt when they first started out on a Poly relationship.
(Especially twosomes who already had a very strong relationship). We look
forward to hearing from you all.
Andy & Kris
I am new to the concept of ployamory and over the past month I have become aware of women who are "open" to taking in a nude erection, oops I meant a new direction, in life ;).. with me .. now .. in my life as I am becomming confident in my ability to be flirtatous and to give myself permission to be sexually adventurous and spontaneous, I too am open to new possibilities and sexual relationships.
My background is that in Nov 2009 my marriage of nearly 12 years broke down and in 2010 I have been able to restructure a new life and new lifestyle for myself which supports a mentality of sexual abundance and opportunity.
I look forward to being on contact with other members who have a similiar mentality and minset as friends, lovers, cuddle buddies etc :)
Hi my name is Catherine. I am a mother of 3 children under 5yrs old and I am recently divorced. My current lifestyle has made my social life a little difficult and having just come out of a marriage I am starting to think of relationships in a different way. I have tried one night stands, just dating and trying for a relationship. None of these work for me. I love intimacy, but I also love a little emotional attachment so I can enjoy it more. But I don't have the time or the real need for a full relationship. And the more I think about it perhaps this might be a change in my lifestyle that I may need, for now at least. I am here with respect. Blessings to all.
This is my first attempt at putting something up here so please be gentle with me.
I am married to a wonderful guy who allows me my freedom to see others as I have a high sex drive.
For the last 8 years, Ihave been seeing another male.
My question is does that make me Poly even though we can't all live together?
Thanks, Confused :S